Dr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for over 30 years. A nationally-known expert on the role of sexuality in relationships of all ages and types, he trains thousands of psychologists and physicians across America and Asia every year. Marty is outspoken about many popular and clinical ideas about sexuality, decrying medicine’s and psychotherapy’s gender stereotypes, sex-negativity, and what he Sexual Intelligence: What We calls “the Oprah-ization of therapy.”Marty is regularly featured in the popular media, such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, 20/20, National Public Radio, and Huffington Post. Honored by organizations such as AASECT, SSSS, and CAMFT, He has been an expert witness or invited plaintiff in many federal and state anti-censorship cases. A former adjunct instructor at Stanford University Medical School, Marty is the award-winning author of seven books, including Really Want From Sex, and How to Get It, currently available in 12 languages. Raves Psychology Today: “Read this book if you want to improve your sex life.” Audiences around the world consistently describe his seminars as thought- provoking, practical, and entertaining.
What You Will Get Out Of This Workshop
What do people say they want from sex? Some combination of pleasure and closeness. But that’s not what people typically focus on. Instead, men and women poison their erotic space with narratives of failure, existential issues, gender stereotypes, blaming, secrets, and shame of every possible kind. The standard “dysfunctions” don’t begin to cover it. The standard request—for better “function”—is a plea to improve sexual experience without changing the self or the relationship. Too many therapists enthusiastically collude with such self-defeating requests. Clients don’t realize, and therapists sometimes forget, that “function” (erection, lubrication, orgasm) is simply a means to an end—more sexual satisfaction. Unfortunately, it’s rarely the best means to that end. In this seminar, I’ll present a different way to conceptualize cases—leading to different strategies, and more importantly, to better outcomes. We’ll cover topics including:
- Assessing and treating “function” & “dysfunction”— and why we must go further.
- Evaluating clients’ sexual ecology.
- Key features of a good intake.
- Why we shouldn’t ask clients what their problem is.
- Why we shouldn’t tell clients they’re “normal”.
- Sexual aspects of aging.
- Succeeding with clients who identify as religious.
- Enhancing desire & satisfaction in long-term couples.
- Defining & handling infidelity.
- Working with couples in conflict about pornography.
- Giving homework that’s much more useful than sensate focus.
- Sexual narratives: why they matter, how to assess them, and how to change them.
All friction isn’t created equal; context, belief, and interpretation matter. This seminar will help you help individuals and couples identify what they really need to change—and to actually change it. After all, sex is more than just an activity—it’s an idea.